December ’08 Updates and a Song

by Natasha

Wow, I can’t believe how quickly this year has gone by. It seems like yesterday that I was celebrating New Years and now Christmas is only 2 weeks away.

Speaking of holidays, this past Thanksgiving reminded me of how much I have to be grateful for. I have been blessed with awesome and patient friends, supportive family, good health, all of my basic necessities and then some, and a job that helps me pay bills and provides me with many opportunities to learn about myself.  Thank you, thank you, thank you!!

In addition to being grateful for my blessings, I have also made the following 3 realizations about building friendship with men:

  1. If I just meet a guy and start falling for him,  maybe what I’m falling for are the character/physical attributes he has that I would want in a future husband.
  2. Upon considering Realization #1, I should make a running list of these attributes.
  3. If after Realization # 1 & 2  I still have warm and tingly feelings for this new guy,  then I should be careful not to quickly throw my heart at him. Instead, I could consider allowing the relationship to naturally develop into what it’s meant to become.

The three realizations above seem so simple, yet it’s amazing how many women I meet who never take the time to consider any of them, especially # 2 and #3 – and I have been guilty of this before myself. After applying the three realizations above, I find that I have so much more clarity and my friendships are full of depth while being light and fun.

On that note, I will leave you with the words of one of my favorite songs from one of my favorite Disney movies, “Rodgers And Hammerstein’s Cinderella”. This song was sang by both Cinderella and the Prince while they danced the night away. Enjoy and Happy Holidays. 🙂

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Do I love you because you’re beautiful,
or are you beautiful because I love you?
Am I making believe I see in you
a girl too lovely to be really true?

Do I want you because you’re wonderful,
or are you wonderful because I want you?
Are you the sweet invention of a lover’s dream
or are you really as beautiful as you seem?

Am I making believe I see in you
a man too perfect to be really true?
Do I want you because you’re wonderful,
or are you wonderful because I want you?

Are you the sweet invention of a lover’s dream
or are you really as wonderful as you seem?

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4 comments

Natasha December 11, 2008 - 3:20 am

Heya Cephus, thanks for stopping by. I agree with you that the heart wants what it wants. Yet, I find that some people tend to build emotional attachments quickly, myself included. In situations like that, where the friendship is still brand spanking new, I have found that the 3 realizations above work well.

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Cephus December 10, 2008 - 8:01 pm

Your realizations are spoken like a true philosopher! The heart wants what the heart wants. No amount of logic or planning can get in its way. I still like the way you approach it though. Guys go through the same thing but in realization #2 you can delete the character part. It’s only physical for men initially. They grow up after awhile lol…

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Natasha December 10, 2008 - 10:03 am

Hey there Nicole, thanks for stopping by. And yes, I wish that women who read this post will take into consideration some of my realizations. It may save them some unnecessary heartaches later on.

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Nicole December 10, 2008 - 8:18 am

I know, the year simply flew by, no?
Great idea for some women to follow the advice you give on men :)!

Nicoles last blog post..Speechless

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